Oh today has been quite the day! I have anxiously waited a month to see my perinatal doctor that has been with me since 20 weeks. My husband and I decided we want to conceive again but I wanted to talk to our doctor and put a plan in place for a second pregnancy.
Short story: we have to wait a year to conceive! I was devestated by these words. Now, we don’t HAVE to do this. Our doctor ultimately said it’s our choice. But she highly recommended we wait to prevent the risk of preterm birth. She said getting pregnant before a year puts us at risk for preterm birth by 20-30%! Because my first pregnancy showed signs of a weak cervix, I will be getting a preventative Cerclage and P17 shots starting at 16 weeks. She said the progesterone is not a guarantee but increasing our chances of a full term birth by 30%. So If we got pregnant before a year it would basically be a wash.
I was only 23 weeks when my water broke, and delivered at 23 weeks and 4 days. So I can’t see where waiting a year gives me as much benefit as someone who had a full term pregnancy or a c-section. I’ve had 2 regular periods, I’m back to my pre-pregnancy weight and I’m exercising regularly. My body physically feels good.
If anyone has gone on to have a subsequent pregnancy after a second trimester loss, when did you TTC again? And what was the outcome?
Hi and thank you for sharing. I haven't had this exact experience (I had a daughter who was born at 25 weeks), but I just wanted to say that I know you'll make the best decision for you and I'll be cheering you on!
I had other health issues that prevented me from TTC again so soon. However, I wish you luck with what ever decision you choose to make. We will be here to support you and cheer you on every step of the way.
I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my first baby, my son Marco, 8 years ago at 29 weeks due to a rare genetic condition.
My situation was different than yours in that I didn’t have preterm labor. I wasn’t told to wait a year to TTC...but it took me over a year to conceive again...mostly because of the fact that my period was very irregular and took a long time to come back after my loss.
All this is to say that, though my situation wasn’t exactly like yours, I know what it’s like to have to wait to get pregnant after a loss. And it’s very hard. I think in some ways, though I wouldn’t have wanted to admit it then, it helped emotionally because by the time I was pregnant again, my loss wasn’t quite as raw, and I was in a bit of a better place. Eight years later, I now have 2 healthy girls, 6 and 2 years old. The journey to get them here seemed, as I was going through it, to last for ions...but I lived to tell the tale.
Know that you’re not alone. SYS is a wonderful place to get support. It’s so hard to get through this, but you will. One day at a time.
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