I joined this group which was advised by my therapist. Long story short, I just recently found out after going through IVF and $10,000 down the drain that our embryo was abnormal and they couldn’t go any further with insemenation. I have been a mess, crying uncontrollably, being angry, isolating myself, and just feel such a sadness inside. My husband tries to comfort me but I haven’t even seen him cry once. The racing thoughts are the worst...I may never be a mother or have a baby. How do you cope with the grief? I wanted something so bad that I may never have.
Hello and Welcome to Share. I am so very sorry for the heartbreak that you are experiencing. I think that infertility has to be one of the hardest things to go through and one of the hardest things to grieve. Part of the journey of grief is acceptance, and infertility presents our minds and hearts with a terrible conundrum, because no one wants to accept that they can't have a baby, its something they are literally putting everything into, financially, medically, emotionally and whole heartedly. Sending you so much peace and strength as you navigate this.
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Hi there, oh how I understand this feeling you are having. I too struggled with infertility and the anxiety, anger, stress, the list goes on of emotion is so overwhelming. I also felt like my husband and I were dealing with it to VERY different ways and I saw no emotion from him as well. The desire to be a mother is so real and STRONG and completely takes over every thought of the day. Or it did for me. I'm glad you are here though, as so many of us had to journey down this path of infertility. It's a hard road, but we are here for you. To support you and help you release some of those emotions that seem to carry us down. Keep us posted on things. We're here.
I'm so very sorry for all that you're going through. I can't imagine how difficult infertility is to go through. Becoming a mother always seems so easy to the outside world.. and then when you have to face what you're facing it just becomes so much to process and grieve.
I'm glad you're husband is there to comfort you. I'm sure his lack of tears could be for several reasons... one of which may be because he feels he has to be strong for you. I know my husband felt the need to care for me and to be strong so he kept a lot of his emotions inside until I talked with him and said he didn't always have to be the strong one. Men definitely grieve differently than women.
I hope that by coming here and reaching out for support you don't feel so alone. Sending good thoughts your way as you continue to navigate this part of your journey.
Hugs to you,
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