I am beside myself. What was supposed to have been a normal 3rd trimester screening has turned into my worst nightmare. I am in hysterics and feel completely lost.
On Wednesday I was diagnosed with IUGR after the MFM doctor at the hospital where I’m delivering confirmed my baby weighs only 2 lbs- in the 3rd percentile. I was then taken to L&D where I was hooked up to a monitor in a hospital room for 2 hours to see how baby was thriving in placenta. Heartbeat and movements looked good and she is still kicking which is a good sign. At this point, I need to wait and see what happens, and be monitored twice weekly. There is a high likelihood that I’ll need to deliver early, according to one of the many doctors I saw. I am hoping to make it to between 34-37 weeks though nothing is certain. Could be even earlier. I don't know anything. I can't process anything. I don't know the cause. Will I know the cause? Will she grow? Will she make it? I don't know. All I know is that my umbilical artery levels are slighlty elevated but was told it's nothing to be alarmed about at this stage.
I feel as though I am getting so much misinformation and that the doctors are throwing around worst case scenario and terms I cannot comprehend. I do not know who to trust as a result. Not one of them took the time to explain this condition thoroughly- they should have as this is my first pregnancy. I’m trying to connect with anyone who has had this exact condition and now has a healthy, happy baby. I do not want my baby in the NICU but it looks like that’s where it’s headed. Not exactly what I had planned.
Is there anyone out there who has been in my shoes and has gone on to have a normal delivery? If not a normal delivery, then how was your NICU experience? Did your baby grow up to be happy and healthy? What can I expect in terms of lasting effects? If this is caused by a "bad placenta," will I likely need to deliver, basically, now? I have my next measurement appointment with MFM on January 3. I don't know if they'd rush me to deliver right then and there if the baby hasn't grown, or what. I have been a wreck and cannot sleep or rationalize.
For context, I'm 28 weeks, 5 days gestational age.
I know how scary that is. My little guy was diagnosed with IUGR at around 24 weeks. At 25 weeks, we started seeing absent diastolic blood flow from the placenta to the baby - and I was admitted to the hospital and was monitored daily. As a first time mom, it was stressful and scary, but ultimately, we came out the other end okay.
He was born very early (29 weeks, 2 days), weighed just 1lb, 14oz , and collectively, we spent 99 days in the hospital. But now, he's nearly 11 months old and he's thriving. Trust your doctors and try to stay as calm as you can. Ask a million questions to make sure you fully understand what's going on. The early days were the worst because the doctors kept trying to prepare me for any outcome (i.e. - if you have your baby right now, this is what you can expect).
The good news for you is, you're at 28 weeks which is a HUGE developmental milestone. That was my minimum goal when I was admitted. At that point, babies have much lower odds of major medical issues at birth. Hugs to you mama - I'm rooting for you. Please don't hesitate to reach out if you have questions. Also check out the IUGR group on Facebook if you're active there. It's a great group of supportive moms all going through the journey together.
Welcome to Share, I hate that this last trimester has some bumps in the road. I hope you will update tomorrow after you appointment. I know it scary but we are all here for you.
By a complete act of god, I was ordered an ultrasound at 35 weeks and 6 days. I was subsequently admitted and my son was born by emergency c section the following morning at 36 weeks exactly. He was 5 lbs 3 oz. Although I was never diagnosed during pregnancy, i have now been in my charts. He quit growing at 33 weeks. He came out kicking and screaming and actually peed all over the doctor the second he came out. He is perfect and healthy and more than a handful at 20 months old. There is no way not to worry about your child- it goes against everything that is engrained in you as a mother. Alls you can do is your best. Do your best to rest and nourish baby as best as you can. Take baths, listen to music, draw, color, do whatever you can that will help you to relax. Hang in there Mama, I’ll be thinking about you ❤️
The doctors do give you the worse case scenario... Its hard to listen to. I heard it so many times I stopped listening . I had to. Every week it got worse and worse. I was diagnosed at 20 weeks. My amniotic sac was leaking, they diagnosed him with club feet from not having enough fluid and the lack of fluid was straining the umbilical cord and he wasn't getting enough . Despite all of this he was born at 38 weeks. No NICU was small at 5 lbs 8 oz. Did have clubbed feet but otherwise did great. Deep breath. its rough
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