Lost & Depressed

26 weeks and Gone

  • Welcome to Share. I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious Brianna. My heart just breaks for you as you had been waiting such a long while for your baby and to meet your daughter. I heard those same fateful words of no heartbeat with our son who was born sleeping at 30 weeks. We are slowly approaching year nine and well, it just takes time and tears. No new parent should have to be making those kinds of decisions for their baby. I am so sorry that you guys had to as well. I hope that the results will bring a little peace. It is definitely something that we wish we had done. It was all so rushed and it is a huge regret. I hope that you get the call soon to pick her up. It will be the best box that anyone has ever handed you and she'll be home.

    Sending you so many hugs,

    Lindsay

  • Welcome to Share. I am so very very sorry you find yourself here. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl. I lost my daughter 11 years ago, and the worst part was watching her get taken away by the funeral director. I spent the whole night forgetting she was really gone and waking up in a panic that I had lost her. I hope it is comforting that you will get to keep her at home with an urn and with a pendant to be with you always. Its not the way it should be at all. Sending you so much peace and strength.

    Love and Hugs

    Brandi

  • Hi and welcome to Share. I'm so sorry for your loss. What you've gone through must be one of the most heartbreaking and traumatic experiences anyone can endure, to lose your precious Brianna -- such a beautiful name -- after so many years of trying for a baby. I hope the autopsy, the memorial service, and bringing the urn home will help to give you some comfort and peace of mind. Whatever the autopsy results, please know this: You did nothing wrong. So many of us moms can't help blaming ourselves when something like this goes wrong -- but you are not to blame. You did everything a mother can do to keep her baby safe. So much about pregnancy is outside of our control, and nothing that happened is your fault.

    I'll be thinking of you and sending you and your family hugs and good wishes.

    Deanna

  • Hi, Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss.   No mom should have to  go to a funeral home and plan a funeral for their baby.  It sounds like you had some very compassionate people both at the hospital and the funeral home to help you.  Many hugs. Nicki

  • Welcome to Share.  I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Brianna.  I wish I could take your pain away.   I still remember those feeling from the early days and weeks after we said goodbye to our daughter.  HUGS! Please know you are not alone.  Many of us here have walked a similar journey.  Sending you so many hugs and a whole lot of love.

    Samantha