The "A" Mom

Bittersweet Mother's Day

  • Hello,

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. I don't blame you for not being a fan of Mother's Day. Honestly, it's just a day. It's nice that it has a spot on the calendar, and it's a great concept, but when it comes to those in a loss situation, it can be  reminder or trigger of a life they lost or something they just can't have.  My first mother's day occurred a few months after I lost my daughter, Josie and I was not in the mood to deal with it. It was just a reminder of something I felt I wasn't and could never be. I make a point to have alternative celebrations, I refuse to host grill outs, or clean my house for guests. I spend the day doing something with my mom and daughter, but I make sure its very low maintenance. I hope you enjoy your day doing whatever makes you happy!

    Hugs

    Brandi

  • Hi and welcome to Share. I am so sorry to read about the loss of your son, Atticus. My angel's EDD was Mother's Day. We lost him in March that year. Mother's Day sure can bring up the best and the worst memories. I am glad that Annette has been your light through it all. I bet she brings you so many smiles:) I wish you a restful day with loved ones.

    Hugs,

    Lindsay

  • So many hugs to you.  Mother's day will always be a bittersweet day for me as one of my children is not here with me.  My daughter passed away after being born 15 weeks to soon.      The one piece of advice I can give it to not be so hard on yourself.  You have been through so much but like you said you fought and survived.  Hang in there and know I am thinking about you and you sweet little ones.

    Much Love

    Samantha

  • Hi there, thank you so much for sharing your story with us.  I'm so very sorry for the loss of sweet Atticus.  Mother's day can be a very hard day to celebrate as there are so many circumstances in our life that leave us feeling like we have failed as a mother, or a mother failed us, or we have a lost a mother, or we are trying to become a mother.   We are all in this together, to celebrate being a mother each and every day, for all that you have overcome each and every day.   Try and celebrate where you are at this exact moment, and be so proud of all that you have been through and all that you have overcome :)   So many hugs to you!!!

    Judy

  • I am sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I can relate to not wanting to celebrate Mother's Day. I boycotted the day for the past six years. I didn't actually celebrate it until this year. This year I didn't do anything special, I had my mom and step dad over for dinner. I hope that yesterday was a little easier on you and your heart.

  • You have been through so very much. I'm happy to see you've decided to start a blog. I hope you find some peace and healing by writing and receiving support from all of us here.

    I think it's completely understandable how difficult Mother's Day is for you. I say... you mark that day, or don't mark it any way that feels best for you. There are no rules on mothering, especially when you've been through all that you have.

    Sending you hugs

    Karri