Well I written plenty of posts through the years for myself and others to help get through these tough times I just wanted people to know there is a life after loss. You can move on Yes it takes time some it takes longer than others Everyone deals with loss differently you need to know that's ok
Just take each day by day don't rush yourself If you want to cry then cry but don't feel guilty that you can still enjoy things. Even though you loss your angel/s you cant let yourself feel guilty Its not your fault you may feel like it is but its not. I know its not fare life itself is not fare but its just the way the world works. It sucks in fact it sucks a big one but don't punish yourself that's not fare on you My top advice I give is don't push your love ones away they do care there just unsure how to approach this I mean this by they don't know how it feels to lose a child. They want to say youll be right and they probably will say exactly that because they don't know what else to say. Im sure they don't mean to be blunt but if you haven't loss a child and don't know how it feels ignorance does set in.
My next rule is treasure your memories hold those memories close but don't close your heart altogether Just have the special spot for your special angel/s Theres so much out there open yourself to those who care and love you.
My next rule is there is a future and you can never tell whats gonna happen in the future The future is also something you cant control but good things can happen that youd never thought would or could.
One more thing before I go look after yourself take care of you because even though this happened you still are very important to those whose love and care about you
That's it from me so Im not gonna waste my time I thought I was doing a good thing but if no ones interested pfft Im not going to bother
peace on Scardycat :)
I can imagine that I will feel the same when I hit year 20, 23, 25 and so on living without my angel. When I found this site days after our loss, I searched for those grieving moms who were also finding ways of surviving through this kind of pain. Angel mothers who were years into their own loss journeys became unknowing role models of hope and courage. The advice you give and your perspective is all so relevant and many do value it.
Know that this site is run by volunteers and although we try to reach everyone in a timely manner, sometimes posts do go unanswered. It can also be that posts are read, but a comment is not left by the reader. We really try not to let that happen as every post deserves attention. I hope that you will come here and still check in as you can.
Sending warm hugs through another holiday season,
These are excellent points of advice. I lost my daughter almost 11 years ago and the holidays still sting a little and it seems that there is just a bit less joy in my heart , most of the time. I do my best to look at what I do have but sometimes its just so hard.
Thanks so much for being a beacon of hope for so many who are just starting this journey and can see your posts (trust me they do) and know its possible to survive years down the road. Wishing you a peaceful holiday season.
Love and Hugs
You're right....allowing the healing to take the time it needs is needed as well as trying to understand that others don't know how it feels and hopefully never will. I hope that as time goes on that those treasured memories will be strong in your heart and that others will continue to support you in ways that they know how.
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