My Little Angels

The shoes come raining down

  • Stacy, I wish that I could give you a huge tight hug right now. So, virtual ones first. HUGS!!! Deep breaths. As you might recall, we too are walking an autism/ADHD journey with our son T. I am glad that you were able to get the diagnosis for E and embraced it, so that you could get him more help and services. My heart hurts to know that a school was disciplining him for his diagnosis! I'm told that it's not that way everywhere in the world, but boy, ignorant people suck. Absolutely horrific and very unsettling that the former neighbors' kids were so awful too! My hubby and I are teachers and it was more than disappointing to realize that (our) public school and district were not going to do right by him. I still have horrible Kinder flashbacks and saw way too many hurtful things happening right in front of me. If it's happening here, you know that it's happening to so many kiddos everywhere. Staff is not trained (appropriately). It takes way more than a 30-minute PowerPoint on a PD day to learn and implement strategies correctly.

    It's so hard to trust a professional's opinion. Believe me, I SO get that. I am very guarded and don't trust easy. I am glad that you were able to witness what the one therapist was mentioning as hard as it was. I am hoping that your little girl can get in to be seen sooner than later and I'm hoping the therapies will yield more results in time.

    You've got a great fellow Share resource Mom there in Hawaii too if I recall. Hopefully you're running things by her and getting some advice there. If you ever need to vent or have questions, I'm here. I'm so glad to hear that you're in Hawaii now, but I know you're further away from family and that's probably an adjustment as well.

    Thinking about you all,


  • Stacy,

    SO many hugs right now! I am so sorry that you are dealing with all of this, but I'm glad that even in Hawaii you have Share to come home to, and its accessible anywhere! While you never want anything to be wrong with your child, it's probably good that someone caught it and it can be addressed. I won't pretend to have enough medical knowledge to know what it could be, but there is always the chance it can be corrected. I hope you can get the MRI as well, so that you have answers for their observations of Isla.

    I'm glad that things are going well with Elim and the neighborhood kids. I think you were in a school that was simply ill equipped to deal with his needs, which also employed very self centered and rather ignorant administration and teachers. I hope that having his diagnosis aides the services he receives at school and that his new teachers and peers are more understanding. Please know we are always here, and I'm just a call or text away!

    Love and Hugs


  • Big, big hugs! I have been getting clobbered by shoes for 17 years and it becomes exhausting. Truly exhausting. You will worry until you know for sure what is going on and then if there is a diagnosis you will mourn what you may lose as a result. But then you pick yourself up and keep moving forward. Like you always have. And Elim and Isla will keep moving forward to because they're amazing and resilient and because you and Charles will walk with them every step of the way.

    I wish I had that crystal ball to tell you exactly where this is all going. I don't but I do have love and hugs and prayers I will be sending your way... all the way across the ocean.

    Hang in there, Momma. And now that we're all here for you.

    Hugs and love,