The summer is over, and I think I almost missed it! A lot has happened since my last blog post. We put our house on the market, and after our initial offer fell through, we did get an offer that closed, and we moved into what I hope is our forever home. My entire Spring, after our Disney trip was focused on organizing/cleaning/fixing/painting etc. so that our house would sell quickly and easily and we could get a good price so we had a significant down payment on our new home. We had an offer on one house, then had to back out due to way more issues than we could deal with on the inspection. We were really scrambling when I saw our current home pop up on Zillow. I saw 3bed/2 bath in my ultimate goal neighborhood in the school district I wanted. My husband went to look at the house, my realtor agreed I would love it and he put in the offer without me even seeing it! Crazy right? Also, the house has a pool, so Abbey was over the moon excited!!
We had a few surprises, including finding out we are in a flood zone, our insurance rate being way more than anticipated and having to restructure our loan. But, we managed to close in late June, moved in and are still trying to make it our own. I will say that the paint colors are dated, and Abbey is not thrilled with the color of her walls, but its just paint. We have had to make several "old house" repairs and we have a nice long to do list, but its ours and we are so happy to finally be in the house that is perfect for all of us. Abbey loves having the space to have all her friends over and hosting pool parties can apparently make you a super cool kid!
Our house is walking distance from her new school. Yep, new school and it was intentional. A large part of why we were moving actually. We resided in a failing public school district, and chose to send her to private school, but it was a very small private school and not equipped to handle ADHD. I'm also not the only one who left this year for the same reason, on of her good friends and my only mom friend there also moved to a nearby district in hopes of her child thriving with a plan put together by trained professionals. Abbey is ecstatic to be attending the same school as all of her dance friends, and as a bonus she can walk home from school. She is also walking distance from two other friends' homes.
I emailed the principal on his first day of office hours and had a response within hours; he copied the school nurse who then sent me the med. forms right away with instructions to drop them off at open house; then the school psychiatrist ( OMG THEY HAVE ONE OF THOSE!!!!) called me the very next day to schedule a meeting with herself and Abbey's teachers to go over her transcripts and 504 plan ideas. I nearly fainted with elation. This is how its suppose to be. I'm not suppose to do all of this nor am I suppose to be defending my daughter's diagnosis and needs for help on a daily basis. I'm not suppose to get admonished for her behavior every time I ask how to help her grades and learning. Abbey is NOT perfect, but dammit the other kids aren't either and she deserves to learn too. I have a really good feeling that she is now in the right place so that her needs can be addressed and she will once again have confidence in the classroom. Every night at homework she would say "I don't know why you're trying mom, I'm not smart."
She already has her "1st Day Outfit" picked out (first time without a uniform) and is super excited for next week, for the first time ever I might add.
I keep wondering if I'm going to lose it when I drop her off at the new school. She's a big 4th grader in a school that only goes to 5th grade, so I can't linger and baby her, that won't get her any "cool" points at all. I have a feeling she is going to shake me off and give me a hair toss and maybe even an eye roll, just for good measure, when I try to hug her goodbye. Then I'm sure I will cry in my car on my way to work, and think about the tiny Rainbow baby that I was always so terrified to lose, who I swore I would never let out of my sight, walking home from school with her very own house key. It doesn't seem possible that 10 years ago I was still carrying her, so uncertain about the future and laughing at everyone's over the top 1st Day posts and tears.
Now I get it, I get it so much.
YES! That is the way it is supposed to be and I'm so glad that you've got a good feeling about sending her to her new school. I am loving the open communication already:) CONGRATULATIONS on your new home! You have been one busy lady! I hope that the repair list isn't too too long and that Abbey will happy with the updated paint color down the road. I hope that both of you have a great first day of school!
I'm so happy for everything in this post! A new home, a new school, a new team for Abbey and lots of wonderful new memories forming and many more to come. I'm so happy for the 3 of you (and your little angel who fills up your hearts).
By the way....I cry every 1st day of school. What can I say... I'm a sap.
love and hugs,
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