Okay. The kid doesn't hate me, at least not as much as I had thought. I will say that the power of electronics is one I will continue to wield! ]
When she came home she seemed to not understand exactly why she was in trouble, but she did accept the consequences in a fair amount of stride. She also cleaned up her playroom and her bedroom and was able to fill up a small box with things that were trash or recyclable.
I gave in a little and let her watch about 45 minutes of tv while she ate dinner (which is usually a huge no no on weeknights) as we had a friend over and I thought the adult conversation would be way over her head, as he had just endured a traumatic experience and was recounting it for us. However, the no TV, no Ipad, no Kindle punishment was enforced all week. Her attitude did change dramatically so far this week. I gave a total of two reminders about arguing, showing attitude and being rude, and reiterated that's why she lost her stuff. I did tell her that she should talk to her therapist about anything that's bothering her, including me, and it would help her not to be so angry about everything.
This week has been fairly peaceful and she is on track to get her devices back today. We are headed out of town after a half day at school for her and work for me, as her third and final dance competition is this weekend. We decided to make a family get away out of it, and hope to do some fun things and explore in a different city, and hopefully just enjoy each other's company. We definitely needed this! I just hope it lives up to my expectations! The other dance moms and I do have a plan to somehow convince the dads to hang out with the girls (all of us have all girls) while we sneak away for adult drinks and give ourselves a toast and a round of applause for surviving our first year of competition dance with 7/8 year olds and all the drama that comes with it!!
Sometimes at dance, maybe because there are 2 other only children on her team, I feel more okay with Abbey being an only child. I watch the other moms with smaller kids and think, I don't even know how I would do that- Abbey was such a handful as a baby and toddler, I can't imagine focusing on more that just the kid, like another kid, or adult conversation or etc. I do realize though, there are a bunch of people who do it, and I truly respect it!!
I do always wonder, however, what it would be like to have another little girl dancing at the studio- would I be able to handle it? The hair, costumes, shoes, etc? Would I be able to afford everything that Abbey likes and wants to do? Its really hard to parent in general, so sometimes I wonder if its better this way.....Then I instantly hate myself for thinking such a thing. I do recognize that the choice shouldn't have been taken away from me, and that part still stings.
Send plenty of positive dance mom vibes my way! The girls are dying for a trophy, and I really hope they can get some sort of special recognition for all their efforts. I'm not sure I can handle another epic rant about "3 year olds who aren't even dancing and got a trophy because of their stupid prop and looking cute!!" *sigh*
Pass the wine please!!
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