So lost

Exactly a week ago i had an emergency csection due to placental abruption at 29 weeks. Our baby girl did not make it and we just layed her to rest two days ago.  Im a mess i cant deal and i miss her sooooo much.  Has anyone gone through this? Does it ever get better?

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  • Hi there! I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my twin daughters last year. They were born 5/25/16 at 24wks. My first daughter Leicy passed at 2 days and my second daughter passed at 11 days old. I had my third daughter on 4/4/17 who passed away at 5 days old on 4/9/17 due to an intestinal infection. So 3 babies in less than 1yr :'( My daughters were scatted at the same place, in the ocean near our home. I think about them every single day. Saying that this is painful is an understatement. Feeling lost, hopeless, and just extreme grief is normal. Please be gentle on yourself. You have the right to grieve, cry, and figure out what helps you heal. It has been helpful for me to post on here because the mommies and daddies here are helpful and supportive. Please remember you are not alone and we are here for you :) Sending you lots of love, hope, and hugs. -Kai
  • Hello and welcome. I am so very sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I lost my daughter 10 years ago due to the birth defect Trisomy 18. We get it and you are not alone. It might help you to blog about your feelings. Wishing you so much peace.
    Love and Hugs
  • I am so sorry for your loss. My son died died 5 years ago at 2 weeks. It was the hardest, most devastating thing I have ever went through and the journey has been a long one. It's hard and you just have to to take it one day at a time. There were moments after my son's funeral that I was taking it one day at a time. Give yourself time to be sad and be easy on yourself. I found the first year to be the hardest just learning how to live this "new normal" I also found counseling to really help me. This site was also my saving grace findig others who unfortunately know what it is like. Many hugs. Nicki
  • Welcome to Share. I am so very sorry to read about the loss of your baby girl. My heart breaks for you knowing there is another family enduring this kind of pain. I lost a son at 30 weeks also due to a placental abruption. That was over 8 years ago. I do not know if it ever really gets "better," but somehow with time, one learns to embrace the pain, understand the triggers, and welcome the tears when they come. For me, it is still such a release to get them out. I found this site shortly after our loss and it has been a wonderful and safe place to share my thoughts and feelings. It is SO hard to re-imagine a life without her. Please be easy on yourself and know that many here understand.

    Thinking of you,