Welcome to Share Nikki. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry to read about the loss of your first baby. While certain questions and decisions need to be made after delivery, I too wish that staff allowed a mother more time (to process) before being asked. I don't know if there's protocol, but it seems unreal that one is being asked questions like that immediately after delivery, surgery, or coming to. One is under stress, enduring traumatic event, possibly on pain/sedation meds, transfusions, etc. Can a patient truly be thinking clearly? I wish staff could just slow down a bit knowing that any decisions made now are crucial and the only ones we ever get to make for our babies who have passed on. I feel like I was asked just minutes after coming to whether or not we wanted an autopsy. I felt it unfair to even be asked that as I hadn't even had a chance to talk to my husband yet. Some say, you do what you know to do in the moment. While I know you wish you could go back, I wanted to say that your plans to celebrate him with a balloon release on the beach sounds heavenly. I am so glad to read that your rainbow baby is doing great and I know he will love hearing all about his big brother as he grows older.
Thinking of you,