Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss of Nora. I have mixed feelings about not being seen until 10 weeks. As someone who works in the medical field I understand that little if anything can be done at an ultrasound or appointment before that time frame. However I also think that caring for the mother is equally as important as caring for the baby and moms who have experienced loss should be handled with care. I had an amazing OB during and after my loss and as soon as I found out I was pregnant again I was given an ultrasound. I doubt the ultrasound did anything more than put my mind at ease but that was so important because I was still very much grieving my loss.
Does this stand in provider know your back story? Maybe you could explain your anxiety to them and she could work you in for a quick check? I am thinking of you and we are all here if you have any more questions.