My labor was wonderful. I had put into practice all that I had studied. Mindful birthing, breathing meditation, and hypnobirthing. But the atmosphere changed once I was fully dilated to 10cm. All of a sudden, the midwife and nurses treated my delivery a race to the finish. There were multiple painful vaginal exams, feet in stirrups, and a "cheering" section telling me to push even past my contractions. I had watched other peaceful births in which contractions were used effectively, but not rushed. At points I was gasping for air, fearful, and completely not what I had studied. When I experienced the "ring of fire", instead of waiting for nature's numbing effect, they had me push through.
My baby was 9lbs 7oz. I experienced a three degree tear and had painful stitching post delivery.
As for my son, I can't help feeling that the rushed pushing stage was the reason why he breathed in meconium and amniotic fluid resulting in pneumonia and our current NICU situation.
The midwife that delivered my baby was the midwife on call, not the one I had picked or worked my entire pregnancy with. I have to do a follow up appointment with her and I'm dreading it. I can't help feeling like our son's situation was caused by her encouragement of me pushing past what I felt was right.
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