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I  just wanted to actually reach out for some advice.  I just recently lost my daughter a few days ago.  I was driving on my normal route home and was heading onto a bridge. I heard a horn or something and turned to see what it was.  I turn my head back towards the road and the person in front of me had started moving. So I started moving at about 5-10 mph and then she slammed on the breaks as I proceeded to slam on mine, my breaks went all the way to the floor not til the second time I pumped them did they work and by then it was too late. I hit the lady in front of me hard enough to have my air bag go off and hit me right in the belly.  My car is now being called a total loss as well so i now have that on my plate as well. I was taken by ambulance to the hospital to make sure .  During the sonogram I found out I was bleeding very heavy and that’s when hell broke loose and I was sent in for an emergency c section.  My daughter Zoe was born 9/12/22 at 36 weeks. She was 4 weeks early.  Her first day alive she was crying and yawning and sucking her thumb. 3 days later she passed away because due to this accident she lost, swallowed a lot of blood or lost oxygen to half her organs.  This caused her to internally bleed.  She had several transfusions.  Nothing was working.  She was medi-vaced to a better hospital.  The last day we saw her she had to be intubated and had a tube in her intensities to control the internal bleeding.  We found out she was now in a coma because there was major bleeding in her brain.  We made the decision to take her off life support because we could no longer let her suffer.  We were able to hold her during her last breaths.  Now, we are sitting home in this unbearable pain.  I wanted to reach out for advice as the things I would normally do for my mental health I cannot sue to the fact that I’m in recovery from just giving birth for the next 6 weeks.  Which is even more torture because I can’t occupy my mind.  All I see is her face, and her dying in my arms.  I can’t stop blaming myself because I’m responsible for this accident .I can’t sleep, I can’t eat.  All I do is cry and want her back.  Looking at my husband’s pain from this loss kills me. How did you get through these unbearable times?