Hello. My family and I have just recently loss our little angel Bryan Allan at 27 weeks pregnant. We had found out that we were expecting a new addition to our little family of four in August of 2020. We were all excited. We had been trying for 4 years to add to our family. We have 2 beautiful girls. The first two visits went really good for us. On our third visit, I was moved up from a normal pregnancy to a low high risk pregnancy. He was measuring two weeks smaller than normal babys at his weeks. I was going in every two weeks for visits. My pregnancy was going really well for what my family had endured. We had suffered 2 loss in the family on september, while helping a family member out. We were taking care of our family members 4 boys after losing their mother. Even through all that I was really excited every time I got to hear his little heart beat. Getting to feel him move around was also really great. My two girls loved to feel their brother move around and do flips. I went in for my visit on December 2and 2020. Once I was in the ultrasound we had discovered that there was no Heartbeat. It was heartbreaking. We were checked into the labor and delivery on December 3rd. This would end up becoming the worst 3 days ever. I was started out only receiving 50mg of the cervix softener medication, every 4 hours. Before this all started, the doctor had come in to talk to us. There I was little to no progress happing on that first day. I will say that the nurse I had for that day, was the best that I had through the 3 days I was there. She would check me every time before giving me the next medication. Like I said, there was little to no progress happing. I was also stuck in a delivery bed, which as most of us know is highly uncomfortable. So I was finally able to fall asleep around 2 o'clock in the morning of the 4th. Then in walked the night nurses. They both had woken me up to take my vitals, due to me getting another 50mg at midnight. What hurt me the most, is shortly after they had left the room,a woman down the hall or right across gave birth. I sat there and had to listen to the baby come out crying and the cheers of the staff. I cried for over an hour afterwards. Knowing that once my baby came out, I would not get to hear that sound. To make it worse, the cradle was left in the room along with all the tools that would be used on the baby after birth. The vitamin k and eye drops. All were just sitting there in the warmer. I decided not to tell my husband about that experience at that time due to what his reaction would have been. On the second day I had still not made any progress. So the midwife had put me on potession. The only thought going through my mind at that time was, "can we just go headed and get this to moving. I just want this to be over and get home to my girls that were waiting on me. This is hard enough on me as is. I just want to grive with my family." Around 5PM that day the midwife finally checked me to see how I'm progressing. Found out that I still wasn't softened for delivery. My Cervix still wasnt opened up yet. So I was moved off of the potession and back on to the softener. I was finally moved up from 50mg to 100mg. Throughout the night my dosage, was being increased. Around 10pm that night, I was finally given a postpartum bed. Thankfully I was moved to a better bed. On the final day I was up to 400mg at 6am of the 5th of december. Around 10 I was given 600mg. Bryan was born at 2:20pm sleeping peacefully. I had decided that I was going to go head and hold him. Both my husband and I were there holding him. It was the hardest thing to go through. We were discharged from the hospital around 730PM on the 5th. Durning the whole 3 days, we had only seen a doctor on the first day before anything was started. We had asked multiple times during the stay to see the doctor, but never did. We had found out that we lost our beloved baby boy dur to a true knot in his cord. I will say that, I'm a little upset with the ultrasound technician. I was being watched for his size. Which untitled a scan on the cord. She only scanned the cord at where it attached to the Placenta and where it attached to his little belly. The cord was never scanned thoroughly. I thought when your being watched and the cord is as well that a scan of the full cord would be taken. After all we do have the ability to take dopplers now. I think a full scan with the doppler would have caught the knot, before it had tightened and killed him. I would have rather be spending Christmas in the hospital with consent monitoring and ultrasounds, than be grieving around this time of year. Most of my family say that, it's okay to be angry with the technician. Thankfully our Mortuary was able to get Bryan home to us. We didn't have to pay out off pocket for the cremation and yearn. I'm a mother of an angel.
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