Lost my baby boy

Complicated pregnancy

  • Hi. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son on June 28 this year. I was fine and all of a sudden the day before I had some pain which I though was my uterus stretching since my belly was so huge for 20 weeks. Later that night, I caught a fever, I took some Tylenol to bring it down which it did. and I made an appt right away with my ob-gyn the next morning. When I woke up the next morning I had severe pain. I called the ambulance and went to the nearest hospital by myself. My boyfriend had just went to work and my parents were out of the country. When the EMT told me he thinks I was having contractions I didn't want to believe it. I was 20 weeks and thought that maybe I was having another issue. When I got to the hospital they told me my water broke (which I didn't know, the day before I thought I was just discharging). My boyfriend and sister got there and they told us I caught a bacterial infection due to my cervix opening which caused my water to break. I had to give birth to my baby in order to get the infection out. My gender reveal was on July 4th. So i understand how you feel. And the last thing we wanna hear is "things happen for a reason" or "God has different plans for us" it was the most annoying thing ever to hear those things. It was my first baby, my boyfriend second (has a daughter) so you can imagine the happiness and depression he had to know he was having a son. It was the worst day possible and there is not a minute where I don't think of it. All I can tell you is to take it day by day. Pray for peace in your heart and mind. And if you need to cry everyday, let it out. These were our babies who we felt inside and nobody understands the pain unless they have been thru the same thing. I pray we have our rainbow babies sooner than later with much healthier pregnancies. <3

  • am sorry I know exactly how it feels to have all the illusion and plans and then an infection takes it all away and yes everyone says it happened for a reason but they can’t even imagine how it feels and yes I cry and ask myself why or what did I do wrong and I think every day how can I have prevented this but then I read other people’s stories and I know that there are others that understand me but it doesn’t take the pain away it helps me to understand more about preterm labor because I had no idea about the theme I thought I passed my 1st trimester we made it and it wasn’t like that the some what safe time for me is 24 weeks for Doctors to be able to help my baby and not just let my baby die in my arms

  • Hello,

    SO very very sorry for the loss of your baby boy. I lost my daughter 11 years ago. In the very beginning it was so very hard to process. I really thought that my heart should just stop beating and feeling. But, I survived it. Every day when I thought I couldn't go on, I would just do one thing, take a breath and then another one, and then eventually I would get up and trudge on. Wishing you so much strength and peace as you mourn your baby.

    Love and Hugs