I just lost my son a week ago at 21 weeks. They don’t know why I went into preterm labor, I suspect because I have chronic UTIs but they didn’t find a big infection and ruled that out. I’m so devastated and sad about the whole thing. My feelings are all over the place and I don’t know what to do. My fiancé has been so helpful and very caring. I don’t think I could have done this without him. He fortunately has two healthy girls, 11 and 9, but this was going to be his first boy. I feel so guilty sometimes because I feel like I took that opportunity away from him. My OB did say that I could get pregnant after my first period and that I’d have to be put on progesterone shots for my next pregnancy. I’d love to talk to someone who had a similar story and did the shots and had a healthy baby. Even if I don’t go the full 40 weeks I would love to make it close enough to where I could have a healthy baby in my arms. Having to bury my son was one of the hardest days of my life and even though I don’t want to go through that again I would love to try and have my baby with my future husband. I just want to know that there is hope after this. I would love to hold my rainbow baby in my arms.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard this is, just know that you are not alone. I am going through a similar situation at the moment. I lost my twin boys due to severe preeclampsia. They had to deliver them at 24 weeks and 5 days on 7/26/19 but unfortunately they weren't able to make it past 30 hours. My fiance and I watched them take their final breaths. I'm still a mess, my feelings are also all over the place. Stay strong and don't give up hope.
Thank you Naida for your kind words. I am so sorry for your loss as well. Us mothers know how hard it is to have our little angels. I pray all us mothers can one day have an opportunity to have a baby in our arms. I have hope and faith that we will have better days ahead of us and we will be all fine.
My name is Helen and 35years old and have been married for 7years. We have been trying to get pregnat and it was so difficult, on Feb 12th 2019 I found out I was pregnant! I and my husband was so happy! I was so excited about it, it was like a dream come thru!! All the ultrasounds,bloodwork and Dr visits was good no problems with my pregnancy! I was so happy seeing my body and tommy changing .
July 6th my water broke at 23weeks and I went into labor, on july 9th I gave birth to my little princess mercy, she struggled to live but we couldn't help her! My world came crumbling, my heart was ripped apart, my happiness disappeared, I cried my eyes out, I weepied like a child, is difficult for me to move on!! I and my husband cant believe such will ever come our way!!! My heart is really broken and am scared of getting pregnant again!! I pray God help me to over come fear and this feelings!! You wont understand the feeling of loosing a child unless you have been there!! I cry everyday, nothing seems to make me happy anymore! Is so difficult to move on!!!
Hello and Welcome to Share. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. There are so many members of Share who have experienced something similar to you. I lost my first daughter to Trisomy 18, 12 years ago in February. I also have a healthy 10 year old daughter. I believe that with medical science and love, there is always hope. Sending you so much hope and prayers your way for a healthy rainbow baby.
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Thank you for sharing your story ericab03. I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. But know that it is not your fault and you should not feel guilty. Many moms here on Share have similar stories. I hope you find comfort and strength as you read through their blogs and update us on your journey to your rainbow <3 Lots of love to you!
@Adaobianyama I’m so sorry for your loss. I completely understand all you are going through. For the first week I felt the same but I started doing lots of research and found out a lot about having a full term pregnancy. It was the only thing that kept me from completely falling apart. I also found another OB because I felt as mine let me down. The new OB was so informative and so kind and let me know I could try again in a few months. I know how hard it is to think of getting pregnant again and the mixed feelings you might get but it will get better. I’ve actually been feeling better these past days thanks to my family, fiancé, and faith. My faith has actually been the biggest part in helping me stay calm and steady. I pray that you end up getting your happiness back and when your ready then I hope you get to try for your rainbow baby.
Josie12907 thank you for your beautiful words and so sorry for your little angel. Ive done a lot of research and your right with medical advances I will one day have my rainbow baby. Again thank you and God bless!
LauraGordillo thank you! Yes I definitely will keep you guys updated. I was told to wait for a while but I definitely will be trying again. After doing much research and talking to my new OB I’ve come to find that there really wasn’t anything I could have done. The guilt has subsided. I feel more calm. It’s still hard but getting easier everyday!
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