Good day ,
First Timer, just thought to share my experience as I am very distraught ATM . I lost my first baby on Saturday 1st Feb at 21 weeks .
PS my baby was healthy all through we had the NT scan and anomaly scan and allnwas in good order. I also took my pre natal vitamins and had a good diet . Only thing is I have fibroid (2) which measure as follows, 7.0 x 6.2cm (posterofundal intramural), 2.8 x2.6cm (posterior intermural)
It started out like any other day the Thursday before . I went to the office , bought a few food stuff on my way home n then went home cooked , served my husband and then we got intimate .
Few hours later I had re occurring cramps (I have growing fibroids which isn't in the uretus) I assumed that was what caused the cramps but if was persistent from midnight to 6am my husband insisted we went to the hospital which we did and I found out I was contracting .
The Gynae gave me some injections n placed me on drip and the contractions continued and eventually stopped. On Friday morning I noticed I was bleeding non stop I asked for the gynaecologist and was told he doesn't work on weekends that he has travelled to visit his family (I was surprised Cz I was his patient and it was an emergency so expected him to atleast stay Friday to monitor me ) .
In the afternoon on Friday , I noticed my gestational sac hanging out of my vagina (that is the sac that holds the amniotic fluid and baby ) I was screaming in tears n shock . I was supposed to have my baby in the US so I called my Us doctor who insisted they carry out an emergency cerclage (stitching of the cervix) but the gynae was unavailable .
I asked to be transferred to another hospital n they said their ambulance was at their second location (1hour away) , wow I was dumb founded Cz I couldn't stand n needed to be in laying position due to the sac sticking out. After some time the sac went back in . I kept on praying n crying as this was our first child.
I asked if they had incubator just incase the baby comes out they said no.
After much back n forth he sent a replacement gynae from their second branch/location ( 1hour away) who arrived at 8pm who advised that nothing could be done but observe and pray and he left back to the second branch instead of staying with me as I was an emergency patient.
I bled all night , my baby was a fighter his heart beat was still on functioning well all through the distress (every time I did scan in the past , drs always commented of how active my son was)
On Saturday morning I woke up to pee and felt like a balloon burst from inside me my water broke. Immediately called the nurses who checked the heart beat n the baby's heart rate was still perfect.
I went to the delivery room , my son head popped out he was still moving as he came out inside the sac after 5 mins he passed. Then the torture began . They general practitioner n nurses spent 2-3 hrs trying to remove the placenta , used all sort to expand my uterus - forcep, hands , clamps I was in excruciating pain . All this while the gynae n replacement gynae were not available .
They finally got the placenta out n I had to be treated with lots of antibiotics as I was feverish n having short breaths so they gave me that incase of any infection .
Been crying all through , the gynae finally graced us with his presence on Monday night imagine the loss was on sat(no calls or nothing the whole weekend) .
My husband and I asked the gynae for reason for the pre term labour he couldn't give us a specific reason . He Just said stress , sex we had a night before or anything .
Let me just stop here ,I am recovering and I pray no one ever experience such treatment as I feels like this could have been controlled and the loss was due to negligence .
I will like any form of advice or support on moving on and healing because I really want a baby this year 2020
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