After our baby girl passed away only 4 days after she was born, we were torn and decided never to try again as the pain is unbearable. My sister in law came over to us one day, and told us a story that we never knew. She had lost two babies previously l, one was a miscarriage and the other was infant loss (her story to tell). She told is that we should try again and never give up, she told us that even though she lost two babies she still has four beautiful children that she deeple loves. This made my husband and i want to try again, not to replace our baby girl, but we desperately need to feel that joy again and to have something to focus on going forward. But we are terified of going though the same thing again. We are exited to try again and i am impatient. Another nine months seems like an aternity, especially considering that it took us 2 years to get pregnant with our baby girl. Im torn between feelings and thoughts, on the one hand i am desperate to hold a baby in my arms again, and on the other i am terified of what might happen.
Hello, I am so sorry to hear about your loss but I know what you are feeling. My baby girl was born on September 3 and she died September 7. She was born prematurely at 7 months due to PPROM and I struggle because I still don't know the cause. The only thing that gives me a peace of mind is the thought of trying again but even that thought gets me anxious because I don't know if I would experience PPROM again, leading to another loss. It also took years to finally get pregnant, I'm talking 10 years here. So the level of excitement my by and I had when we found out inwas pregnant, the grief is exponentially worse. I'm sorry we have to go through this but I hope you find peace and comfort in your healing journey. If you like you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you wish to have a grief buddy to speak to now and again. I wish you the best.
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