Thanks for everyone's kind responses they helped, I am feeling more at peace about things. I just hate that the doubt has been planted.( I"m one of those people that latch onto things than have a hard time letting it go) But I have talked to a friend whose oldest son went to the same school and she got the same conference a few years ago. They didn't "follow their advice" and he is doing good in school. I also talked with another friend who is a retired reading teacher and who has spent time with C and she told me C is a typical 4 yr old. She told me the problem is the school system they have too high of expectations. She had visited a friends daughter in Kindergarten a few weeks ago and was surprised at what they were doing she said it was more like a first grade classroom.
I think what is so hard about all of this is that everyone expects our children to grow up so quick. After everything we've been through I want C to enjoy his childhood for as long a she can. We all know too well how fragile life really is...so why are we pushing are children to grow up so quickly?
I also hate how this "bomb" was dropped during the holiday season...I felt like it put a damper on things when I was feeling pretty good this year about everything.
Quite frankly I am over C;s school between the other moms and now this...My husband and I talked about enrolling him somewhere else after the first of the year but decided it wouldn't be in C's best interest. C takes a while to warm up and is really starting to come out of his shell at his current school. He is excited to go on school days and plus he has a major crush on his music teacher so I can't step in between that! ;p So since he really isn't being treated unfairly or anything like that I am just going to grin and bear it a few more months....I have already told my husband that when the scheduled conferences happen in February he will be there this trumps work. I don't care what he has going on he has to be there. ( His work he is always on call...and we have to be very flexible in our family) I don't play that card much actually never except for when I was pregnant.
I lit a candle last night in memory of my Scott and thought about all your little angels too.
Nicole,
I really just hate that this "teacher" has brought you down so much and made you doubt C. To me he sounds like a typical 4 year old. I spend a lot of time in Alexia's class and she is in kindergarten. Many of the kids at the beginning of the year hadn't mastered all of the skills that C has mastered at 4. So you should be proud of yourself for all that your little boy has accomplished. I know it's hard when someone who is supposed to know more on the subject tells you otherwise though. Your a great mom and I hope that this holiday season you relish in that fact. Thinking of you my friend.
Jami
I love you! I wish you lived closer! Wanna move to Florida??? ~Samantha