4 years ago we made the decision to take Scott off of life support on Father's day. Father's day has never really been the same for Mike but each year it has gotten better for him. As C gets older he wants to celebrate his dad and do special things. June is a very bittersweet month for our family. With my oldest Son C I went into labor on my husbands birthday and C was born the next day. Scott was born 3 days after C birthday. So it's a month of celebrating all my boys birth but also a month of very sad life events with Scott dying, Scott's funeral. This year I realized Scott's deceased date falls on father's day. This is the date that is the hardest for us. It's not only the day he died, but the last day we ever saw and held him, and the day we planned his funeral. How do you celebrate a dad's special day on the day that your son has died and planned his funeral? We will be busy preparing for our vacation which we leave for the next day but it's still going to be that knowing of what the day is. At least C is still young enough to not understand calendar dates entirely so Father's day can be earlier or later depending on what my husband wants to do.
That's really tough. I'm glad you are taking Mike's feelings into consideration as far as what day you celebrate him. Big hugs to you!
Julie
I am so sorry that you have to even think about all this on top of mourning Scott. Like Julie, I think it's wonderful that you take your husband's feelings into consideration as you decide how to let C celebrate his dad.
Wishing you peace as June bears down on you,
Tommie
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Anniversaries are hard enough, but when they fall on a day you would rather celebrate it makes it even worse. Hugs to you and to your husband.
Love
Brandi