Living my new normal

insensitive people

  • I relate so much to this. Many hugs. I can't tell you anything that you don't already know. I'm sorry they are this way. Much love to you.

  • Oh my.  I'm so very sorry that his family are behaving like that.  It's so frustrating when those who are supposed to be the ones to have your back and carry you through such horrible times just abandon you.  There's no excuse for it.  Sending love and hugs your way in the coming days.


  • I'm so sorry Nikki. This is something that Jerry and I have struggled with as well. Finally after a lot of soul searching and thinking about what is best for our family and our girls we had to cut some ties. In my family and Jer's. It has been painful but also a relief to eliminate the stress. I am thinking of you as June quickly approaches and sending many hugs.


  • Nikki,

    I am so sorry that your in-laws are so selfish and insensitive to your struggle, particularly that of their own blood relative. On a positive note, maybe sharing here will help you get it out of your system by next week, and June will be better for you. So sorry that your in laws are like this.

    Love and Hugs


  • Im so sorry youre dealing with insensitive people the loss of a child is very complicated. In laws especially tend to be the absolute worst in these types of situations my husband is some what distant from his family and his sisters accused me of killing my baby so I have an idea of what youre going through. Sometimes as angelmoms we need to accept that not everyone is going to understand our struggle because it is EXTREMELY PERSONAL its just something you need to go to through to truly understand you have every right to be upset with your husbands family just be patient because its very dffucult to not want to smack an insensitive idiot every once in a while ignore those people (hubbys family) and take care of you and yours.

    Many hugs and peaceful vibes sent your way.


  • I am so sorry for all of it. I don't know why people do such insensitive things especially when someone is grieving the loss of their child. I read your family stuff and it reminds me so much of my own. We too came to the realization that we had to protect our hearts and not worry too much about relationships with others. It's hard. I think my parents are stunned that it's been more than 6 years since I've seen/conversed with my sister. Maybe this is really abrasive of me, but I definitely think it's a tad easier to write people off after a loss. Strange?

    Hoping that you can keep the crazy away and embrace your June,


  • My hubby family is the same, always make the time for others but when it comes to giving us support there's always an excuse.  I hope that one day your in-laws realize that Scott still matters and is very much still a part of the family also I hope that you get to enjoy June even on your emotional days.  Remember you are bless with a wonderful husband and 2 great sons, one that's looking down on his family and the other you get to hug and spend time with.

    Many hugs to u


  • Hugs to you, Nikki. The insensitivity of family astounds me -- even in my own situation. And I agree with the others that if you have to cut them out to save yourself the stress and hurt, then do it.