So October 15 is special day for me it's my wedding anniversary. We will be 9 years this year. Right before I got married I had gotten a card that said, " Right in the middle of an oridinary life a fairytale happened" I liked that so much I ended up using it on my Wedding Programs.
Well fast forward 7 years and my fairy tale is altered forever. The happily ever after ending of the house with the big yard and two kids running around in it is not playing out the way I thought it would. Than I find out October is Infant Loss Awareness month and that Infant Loss Awareness day is Oct. 15. It has made me think a lot about his date and what means. This is a day where many people attend rememberance ceremonies in honor of their babies who have passed. For me it's a day to spend with my husband and to celebrate our marriage.
As I thought about this I realize that Oct 15 for me can symbolize what I have. I have two boys one his my little butterfly. I have an awesome husband. I am very lucky that everything that happened brought us closer together as a couple. We leaned on each other, we gave each other space when space was needed, we argued, we cried, we talked. We talked and we talked. I remember walking laps around the outside of the hospital talking about Scott and what to do and how to handle everything. We got through it. Even when I hit the lowest point in my life my husband was there. He helped me, he encouraged me. he never once made me feel anything but loved.
So October 15 I may not attend any Rememberance Ceremony's but I have my memories. The love that my family has for each other how much of a team we are all because we took a chance 9 years ago on writing our own fairytale. and let's face it if you ever read any of the original fairy tales they are nothing like Disney portrays them to be. ;p
I totally agree and congratulations on 9 years of marriage!!! I think we all have to walk our journey the way that's best for us, and for you....this is the best way to remember the love in your own family....by remembering how that love began!! Enjoy your anniversary!
Hugs,
Tracy
Many hugs to you Congrats on your anniversary! This is your story, you tell it and live it like you choose. I think although your fairy tale may have been altered does not take the love away that you all shared on that day. You all are stronger now.
Enjoy your day!
Samantha
Yes, the Disney fairy tales are....nothing like real life fairy tales, that's for sure! It is nice to have Oct. 15th as an "official" day of remembrance for our little ones that have died - but really, we remember and honor them every day.
I hope that you and your husband have a lovely anniversary. I know Scott will be in both your hearts in a special way, as he always is.
Libby