Living my new normal

The Futon

  • I'm glad I'm not the only one with the thoughts of our only living child having to deal with life alone!  I think about that a lot, and pray that she'll have close friends and/or a spouse who will be there for her with complete understanding of her heart!!  You're right....sometimes friends are more family than family is!!  



  • I've heard the saying before that "friends are the family you choose." I like that saying because I think it is very true. We don't have any family in town so we value the friendships created. And yes, sounds like your futon is getting put to great use and will have many more sleepovers to come! We got a futon as well for that purpose and I love every time we need to pull it out!

  • Lovely post, Nicki.  My parents have a couple whom they have been friends with for many years now.  They are basically family.  They call them "Fris" and "Fro" for Frister and Frother - as in friend sister and friend brother.  :)



  • Technically, I have two half  brothers and one half  sister.  I talk to my  brothers sporadically but haven't seen either in a long time. I haven't seen or spoken to my sister in about 4 years.  In practice, I have at least 3 brothers and 2 sisters, all that I met in college and have stayed close with for 10 years now. We don't see each other as much as we like, but we always show up when it  really counts. She calls all of my friends her Uncle ____ and Aunty_____.

    Sometimes I feel the same way, that Abbey is missing out on having siblings, but then just a few days ago, when driving back from our friends' house, who have two girls she plays with she said, "..they aren't a part of our family but they are just like our family....;" its crazy when a 6 year old can figure something out that is so profound and beyond their years.  I also love how something as simple as an object for sleeping can put everything in perspective.

    Love and Hugs


  • Friends are the family we choose.  You've given C such a strong foundation of what connection and true compassion is.  I have no doubt as he grows that he will be surrounded by caring individuals.