I get that people don't always like or support the same thing. When I come across something or hear someone talking about a cause they support that really isn't something I would I don't make a big deal and l just do my own thing. I really hate when people feel the need to be negative and have to give their "piece of mind" to every little thing. I started a facebook page mainly to promote Team Popcorn our MOD team. I had someone comment today to one of my post about our team write something negative and it really bothered me. I could have quickly responded back with something defensive but I didn't. and I still haven't decided if I'm going to respond at all...but it just bothers me. I;ve been through a lot and the one way I have been able to get on with my life is by finding something positive to do in Scott's memory. It has helped me focus on something good instead of just the negative. If this person felt the way they did why couldn't they just keep it to themselves? Why did they need to burst my bubble and write it for everyone to read. What also bugs me about this is that this is my mom's cousin so she knows that my mom's goal while in the hospital was to make the MOD walk. And she is and it's a huge deal for our entire family...so for her to just say what she did bothers me.
I had the same problem a few weeks ago when my aunt felt the need to share a comment a friend of hers made on why she couldn't buy popcorn (our fundraiser) something with her religion not supporting the MOD or what not...but it's like why did I have to hear that? Why can't people see that I'm excited and that I'm trying to do some good in this world when I could be choosing to sit at home and do nothing and just be bitter and sad....
It also did not help that I had a major meltdown this morning (with the my poor husband catching the brunt of it after he had worked all night)because May is super busy for us and I realized this morning that there is a lot to get done with our walk on May 3 and we are having our teammates over afterward for a cookout, the following week we are doing the MS walk with my SIL ( who has MS) and then the end of the month is Colin's birthday party. Of course my husband's job decided it needed to get really hectic and we have barely seen him the past two weeks and he has to travel next week a couple days before the walk. On top of this it really stinks that I have to make sure to get Colin's party in before June 5 every year because once that date rolls around June kinda becomes really depressing for me. So i have no choice but to have his birthday party before his birthday on June 2. So reading that comment after my meltdown and having breathed deep and was ready to tackle May did not help my mood.
What a jerk that person is! I'm sorry they were unnecessarily mean.
I think you are doing an amazing job with Team Popcorn.
May sounds hectic. I hope, despite it's business, it goes smoothly for you. If not, we are here for venting purposes.
I am really sorry that someone (especially a family member) felt the need to say unkind things. I have finally gotten to a place with my grief that I can honestly just feel sorry for them. I feel sorry because they lack the compassion and respect for others that our children left us with. Anytime I see something or someone I can't help but wonder what they have been thru in their life that has brought them to that point. I always wonder maybe their baby died and no one was there to support them like they have been to support me because as crazy as I've been with support I can only imagine what I would have been like on my own. Not everyone has that level of compassion for others. I hope she learns to keep her thoughts and opinions not only to her self but off of social media. If I would have seen it I probably would have very politely and kindly responded. :)
Wow .. so sorry for the insensitivity. I understand it firsthand ... my uncle (my dad's brother) told his other brother when he received a fundraising letter from us our first year that "he only gives to causes he believes in." I was on fire. This was the same man whose daughter experienced six miscarriages, then went on to have to successful pregnancies (outside of gestational diabetes she experienced). How did she get to FT? Yeah -- the march of dimes. And whose religion is against the MOD? If they can't be nice, then they don't need to say anything at all.
Sorry that things are so hectic. I understand what it's like with a spouse who travels .. mine is gone practically 8 months out of every year. Take a deep breath ... and don't beat yourself up if you can't do it all perfectly.
hugs and love.
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