Somewhere Over the Rainbow


  • Libby-

    I'm right there with you momma.  We're going day by day figuring out how to navigate Akeelah's story to Micah.  We "tested" out wording on the death of my mom's dog- Rosie's body stopped working...

    I thought we would have to tell Micah that Akeelah died- he actually figured it out on his own and asked us if she died.  And we had to say yes... and then quickly change the subject before my heart burst.  The other day he also asked why doctors couldn't help her...  aaaaah these little sibs...

    Hugs momma.  The right words will find you when the time is right.


  • I don't know how you keep it together in moments like those... bless Lucia's heart for thinking of her brother. I don't know how, but someday, the right words will come.

    Her little pig tails are too, too precious. Love to you and both your babies.


  • Huh, I had never thought about it.  A few weeks ago Elim said the same thing about a picture of the girls.  But that is a good point that we probably shouldn't talk about them sleeping, at least when they're older.  Maybe change the way we talk about it so they still understand as we go?  Tough questions, sending some hugs your way!


  • I also have a hard time figuring out how to explain to Hunter (he's 4) that he has twin sister who died.  So far I have told him that she is an angel that lives in heaven.  I don't really feel like its a good explanation, but so far its all I have really been able to get comfortable with. He asks a few questions and then we change the subject because its beyond his understanding (and really mine too) and I don't want to scare him or make him upset (or see me get too upset).   Its so hard and heartbreaking.  

    Lucia is adorable!


  • Libby, Lucia is so cute and I love those pig tails too!  My heart goes out to you.  I've had similar moments here at home with both boys looking at a picture of us in the hospital holding their younger brother.  D knows, remembers, but T just says "baby sleeping."  Every now and again, when T is looking at the picture, I ask him who it is?  Sometimes he says baby and sometimes he says N.  Hard not to hold back those tears.  Some days I'm able to do it and others not so much.  For now, I guess our plan is to just tell them more as they ask.  Won't ever be easy.

    Sending you hugs,


  • Libby,

    She is such a beautiful little girl. What a blessing. We run into this problem as well. Alexia who is now 5 informs everyone she meets that she has three sisters and one of them died. I don't know how to explain to her that other people think that her sister's death is awkward first introduction conversation without her thinking that talking about her sister is wrong. So I just let it go and when I get awkward glances I just look at them back like they're they ones with the problem. :) Keira at three is beginning to copy everything her sister does. I think that children will eventually find that they are comfortable with and so will you. Nothing about this journey is easy, ever. I certainly wish just once we could have a day where something about it was simple but it just never is.