Samarella's Journal

Faking it!

  • Samantha,

    My thoughts are with you today mama.  How about instead of however... and.  Because isn't that really what makes the days so bittersweet that we simultaneously live these two lives- one filled with joy and one that hurts- and usually all at once making it so complicated.

    I don't think there is anything "weak" in 7.5 years later crying.  Grief is the price we pay for a love so deep it could never end.  Those tears don't say weak to me, they say forever in love.



  • Hi Sam. Happy belated mother's day to you. I totally get the faking it. I, too, had a day yesterday that made me feel more sad than happy, even though my girls and hubby did much to make it a nice day. There isn't anything wrong with crying daily for our babies -- it shows just how much we love them and how deep that connection is. Lauren's right ... grief is the price we pay for love.

  • Samantha,

    Happy Mother's Day to you.  I really like Lauren's reframe of using "and".  Simple and powerful.  We have extreme love for our little ones we get to raise, and grief for the loss of our little ones who are no longer here.  It sure is complicated.  

    Thinking of you and sending a big hug your way,


  • Thinking about you and many hugs to you.  I get those days of faking it. how  good we get to be at doing it...but I also think that it's okay to be sad and cry.  We lost our little ones that we grew inside us and we loved them very much even if they were here only a short time.