Wow can you believe it Ive been an angel mum for sooooo long now. I lost my first boy Sean in 1988 that's 30yrs and Shane 1990 that's 28yrs
OMG Where did time go? Its just flown by and to think back then when this was all unfolding I was thinking how in the hell am I going to get through this? I was not really sure how, I just did wow. I look back now and think all those What ifs and whys questions that ran round my head but I guess Ill never really know all the answers of what unfolded through those days and years. But Ive excepted that maybe Im just not suppose to know all the answers. I was so convinced at the beginning of this all unfolding that my world had crashed and burned but now I look back and I survived it. I survived the heart break, the grieving, the tears and every other roller coaster feelings and thoughts I thought back then. You know what Im a survivor yep little me I got through this.
My advice to anyone that has loss an angel baby is treasure all your memories. Take time to grieve there is no time limit to getting over this. Youll know when your ready to take the next step. Keep your friends and family close don't push them away because they don't understand even if they say they do, unless they have actually lost a child they don't. Take care of yourself you need to do this to help you heal and with in time you will but don't try and hurry it. It will happen when your ready.
Your life does go back to normal but its not the same normal you had before but what I call the "new normal".
The "new normal" is different its the life you and your family live with now having an angel baby. There will always be a special piece of your heart that holds that special love for that child or children that are not with you anymore but its special, so special that you never even as time goes by lose that love or memories of your special angel baby. It tucked in your heart forever
So don't think you wont get through this because you will. I did and if I can, my word you can too.
Well let me first say thank you for continuing to post. Your last one seemed a bit disheartened. I am not on here as much as time goes on but I think it does help those who are now going through what we went through so many years ago to see that they can still live a new normal life. It is going on 6 years since we lost our little boy Mason and there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of him. And as you said "So don't think you wont get through this because you will. I did and if I can, my word you can too"
Very relevant advice. I'm still coming to terms with things and its been 11 years since I lost Josie. There are always questions and regrets, I'm not sure it gets easier as much as I am accustomed to dealing with everything. Thanks for posting.
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I recently found myself alone recently even though I have the most supportive families and friends. My husband and I faced with a loss of our sweet beautiful daughter borh January 31, 2018 at 26 weeks. We've endured two miscarriages from the past and many IVF treatments, and disappointments. I had three months and a half till my baby was suppose to be born and she was taken away so suddenly. We're awaiting results but everyday feels like an eternity. My husband is busy back at work but as for me, I find myself stuck and feeling alone. My husband is my world no doubt about it and we grieve together, but feeling empty inside and seeing my body changed so drastically made me feel worthless.
This Saturday, February 17 was suppose to be my baby shower and it will end up to be my daughter's memorial service. Although my family and friends are coming for my baby girl's service, my heart feels heavy. It is becoming real.
Thank you for your advice. I will treasure everything I was given by the nurses at the hospital for my daughter. The items are all I have. Having her home in her urn I am hoping will give me peace.
Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us. Its a way to give hope to those who are just starting out. Many Many hugs
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