I know I can't be the only mom who does not understand report cards these days. Right? Anyone? Now you would think after 3 years of the number system, 1-4 I would understand but I'm still lost. And I really don't get it because I think that Abbey's aptitude and comprehension is well above the marks she is getting.
Her first trimester report card was all 2s for the most part, which is suppose to mean " at age level standards and working towards proficiencey" So to me, that's a C- or C+ at best. Then 3 which she got a few of this time around is "above grade level proficiency standards" and then 4, which is see none of and don't believe are actually given out, is " always demonstrates proficiency and exceeds standards" or something like that. 1 is the number I never want to see... "does not meet standards or levels of proficiency" but of course one of her marks went down to a 1. I do not understand how that is possible. How could a kid who came in at 2 regress to 1 after two trimesters of learning.
I will admit that Abbey is absolutely terrible at spelling, punctuation and grammar. But she is an amazing reader. I was weary of her reading at first, but she has taken off and loves it now. She also can read with intonation and narration skills well above her grade level expectations (ofcourse no category for a 4 there!!) She is regularly passing her Accelerated Reader quizzes and more willing to read on her own.
I have scheduled a conference because I just don't think these marks match her performance. I think what bothers me the most is that this rating system feels subjective. Like, she consistently gets As and Bs on tests and her homework. How is it possible its not all 3s and 4s then? I see her tests, I sign them, I help with homework, I help her study; if she gets the grades how are they not reflected on her report card?
And of course she never has good marks in behavior, it always says she is behind where she should be. I am seriously so over everyone telling me that my kid doesn't listen or follow directions. I have a piece of paper telling you that she has a mental condition that will inhibit her from ever doing exactly what you want her to do, and yet I still have to hear about how she talks too much, doesn't listen etc. It drives me insane. There is nothing I can do about this. She is not a bad kid. She has too much heart, she wants too much and she is all over the place. She has ADHD and it's not my fault!! ( I think)
Every report card leaves me feeling like a failure. And then she bursts into tears when I ask her questions and I don't even know what I'm suppose to do. Dennis says my standards are too high and I expect too much from her. All I know is that I hate report cards and this 1,2,3,4 nonsense. I can't wait until 3rd grade and real grades!
Dance competition # 2 is this weekend. I made a special essential oil blend for Abbey and her teammates, its a calm/focus/happy blend for smiling and being confident on stage. I hope it helps them master their smiles and sassiness!
Sorry for the rant. I'm so frustrated I don't know how to help her.
It's so hard to see a report card when you know your daughter is amazing, bright, wonderful, talented, and going to do great things in this world, and that's all that matters! Hugs mom!
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