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Living with a little one in your heart instead of in your arms can be full of bittersweet days.  Comfort can be found among other "angel parents".  Living a New Normal is a place to share your days and memories with other parents who understand.

Akeelah's Mommy

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  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    In reply to lvazquez:

    Hunter told us a story over the weekend. In his Chinese class at school they were learning the words for family members and coloring in the corresponding pictures. Hunter asked his teacher if they could include people in their family that died and she said yes. So he colored in the picture for sister. Then one of Hunter's friends told him that the people in our families that have passed away like when we smile, and that even though we can't see it, they smile too when we are smiling. Such a sweet thought from a 7 year old friend.
  • lvazquez

    In reply to Jacoby's Mom:

    Tracey, I hope that one day he might visit you in a dream. Our angels send us those messages at interesting and unexpected times. I'm so glad that you did receive the print:) I had been wondering, but didn't want to press. Love your friends too! Could have chatted about artsy fartsy stuff with her all night, but my face was no longer responding accordingly. It was time to go to bed. Miss you already and sending you hugs!

    Lindsay
  • lvazquez

    In reply to Jacoby's Mom:

    Tracey, I hope that one day he might visit you in a dream. Our angels send us those messages at interesting and unexpected times. I'm so glad that you did receive the print:) I had been wondering, but didn't want to press. Love your friends too! Could have chatted about artsy fartsy stuff with her all night, but my face was no longer responding accordingly. It was time to go to bed. Miss you already and sending you hugs!

    Lindsay
  • lvazquez

    In reply to Jacoby's Mom:

    Tracey, I hope that one day he might visit you in a dream. Our angels send us those messages at interesting and unexpected times. I'm so glad that you did receive the print:) I had been wondering, but didn't want to press. Love your friends too! Could have chatted about artsy fartsy stuff with her all night, but my face was no longer responding accordingly. It was time to go to bed. Miss you already and sending you hugs!

    Lindsay
  • Jacoby's Mom

    In reply to nmiller77:

    I have never had a dream about Jacoby. I can't explain the immense desire inside of me to visit with him in my dreams.
  • lvazquez

    In reply to nmiller77:

    I was feeling a little blah the other night. I was watching the third round of news on a different channel and then I saw him, the doctor who was scheduled to perform my tube reversal in 2012! Yup. So, Essure isn't so safe afterall and there's a group of women speaking out about it to the FDA. This doctor is joining them in their fight. The center I had made so many arrangements for has a new name now and I can only guess that his superior has since retired. I never thought I'd see this person again, but there he was. I still get a little upset when I think about it all. For more than 2 years, I was talking with this center and then, last minute let down from THIS guy. I wanted to be safe of course, but it's that my file, operative reports, and labs had all been reviewed by his predecessor and had been given a green light. I spent so much time hoping, waiting, and saving for nothing.

    Lindsay
  • nmiller77

    In reply to Hunter and Randi's Mom:

    I had one dream about Scott after he died.  I don't remember what it was about but I do remember it Affected me to the point that I laid in bed all day and just asked My husband to hold me.   wish I would dream about Scott but wonder if it would just undo me again.

  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    In reply to lvazquez:

    Lindsay
    I also only had one dream about Randi in almost 7 years. It was also very vivid and mine was quite disturbing. Part of me wishes I had more dreams about Randi but part of me worries they would all be disturbing.
    Marissa
  • lvazquez

    In reply to grandmamary:

    A friend recently asked me if I had experienced any dreams of 7 year old angel children? I'm not sure what source she might be referencing, but I told her that I hadn't. I'd let her know as N turns 7 next year. I've only had one dream with our angel in it and it was early on after our loss. It's still very vivid and I think it was probably my mind processing that this really had happened.

    Lindsay
  • grandmamary

    In reply to nmiller77:

    Oh, to only be that naive again . - Grandma Mary
  • Josie12907

    In reply to lvazquez:

    I so get that!! I have no desire to hurt or scare anyone but I really hate the way some people approach such a precious and delicate thing with such a cavalier attitude. I suppose they are just lucky to have never experienced or even seen a devastating loss or pregnancy complication. Everyone can stick their foot in their mouth about pretty much anything, but this is one where I have to bite my tongue and walk away...or my face will do the talking for me! I hope you can get through this and change the subject !
  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    In reply to lvazquez:

    I know what you mean Lindsay. Three of the women I work with are pregnant right now. I feel nervous for all of them and I try to avoid talking about my pregnancies too because I don't want to be a downer. It also bugs me when people say they are ready to be done (although I might have been one of those people if I had a normal pregnancy).
    Hugs,
    Marissa
  • nmiller77

    In reply to lvazquez:

    Ughhh so sorry. I find some people I am okay being around who are pregnant and others not. and when they make comments such as the ones you said were made it makes it all that harder. especially the one saying if anything was going to happen...how I remember when I used to be that naive....hugs. Nicki
  • ethan&casey's mom

    In reply to Miss Princess 2009:

    I would suggest talking with your OB and perhaps a high-risk doctor to establish a plan for your next pregnancy. I wish you the best. So sorry to hear about your angel.

    erin
  • lvazquez
    That sounds so beautiful Lauren:)

    So, two of T's therapists are preggo right now. One is due at the end of the month (a boy). The last time we saw her, she said she's "ready to be done." I am taking that as she just can't wait to meet him and enjoy him on the outside of her tummy. The other therapist will be finding out what she's having in the next week or so. A few weeks ago, she mentioned how far along she was and said "if anything was going to happen, it would have happened by now." GULP!!! Oh, it's one thing to see a pregnant person out in public, but to have to interact with one is something else. I am holding back from saying anything. It's so hard though. Usually, I can escape the conversation or situation. Not here. I'm stuck for 50 minutes weekly. Trying to be cheerful for her.

    Lindsay
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