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Living with a Loss? Angel Parents check in here..

Living with a little one in your heart instead of in your arms can be full of bittersweet days.  Comfort can be found among other "angel parents".  Living a New Normal is a place to share your days and memories with other parents who understand.

Akeelah's Mommy

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  • Jami H

    In reply to grandmamary:

    Grandmamary,

    You have been missed. Especially at Share Union this year. I hope that life settles down for you soon and you are able to catch a break. I am a firm believer in the "when it rains it pours" logic. Seems to be the way it works at my house too. As a matter of fact its pouring right now. lol

    Sending you lots of hugs,

    Jami

  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    In reply to My kids3:

    Hi My kids3.  Welcome to Share.  I am so sorry for your losses and your loss of your first grandbaby.  I can't imagine how hard it is to watch your daughter go through the same pain you experienced, knowing first hand just how devastating losing a baby is.  I am sure it is helpful to your daughter to be able to lean on you for support.  

    Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

    Hugs,

    Marissa

  • grandmamary

    It has been awhile since I have been on the site. I do follow the posts I receive via e-mail. This year it has just been one thing after another. Nothing major but just wearing me down.

    Last week Sunday I did participate in our local "Walk to Remember" for our babies gone too soon. I also lit a candle on Wednesday night. All of you here on Share were in my thoughts and prayers as I remembered your angels in heaven too.

    This year my local granddaughers, who are 8 1/2 and 6 1/2, came with me to the walk. They really decorated up the balloons they sent to Braelynn (their cousin), Kaleb (their 2nd cousin) and Syles (thier dad's best friend's son). I was happy their parents allowed them to participate.

    Even though I am not online much, I think of everyone often.

    Hugs,

    Grandma Mary

  • grandmamary

    In reply to My kids3:

    Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your losses and then the loss of your first grandchild.  I found this site after my daughter gave birth to twins at 28 weeks and my granddaughter passed away the next day.

    I have found the grief to be a roller coaster ride and I am sure with your own losses you have experienced that. I think as a mom, not only was I grieving for my granddaughter but also for the horror my daughter was going through.

    This wonderful group not only helped me with my grief but also with how I could be a support for my daughter. Please keep posting whatever you are feeling as someone here has probably felt whatever it is at some point too.

    Hugs and a shoulder to cry on,

    Grandma Mary

  • My kids3

    In reply to nmiller77:

    I lost my first child 3 months into my first pregnancy 25 years ago and 3 more babies after that. They are always on my mind the pain gets easier to bear but it is always there. 3 weeks ago I had to watch my daughter go through the same thing,she lost her baby 10 weeks into her pregnancy and the loss of my first grandbaby has brought all the pain back. Does it ever get any easier to bear??

  • lvazquez

    There is a Wave of Light tonight for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Light a candle at 7 p.m. in your time zone and keep it burning for about an hour. There will be a Wave of Light across the globe for all of our angels.

    Lindsay

  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    My mind has been filled today with thoughts of my angel Randi and all of your sweet angels.  It catches me off guard that six years later I still struggle to hold it together on days like today.  Days when sweet memories and thoughts of my tiny feisty little girl, the ones that bring me smiles, get clouded once again by the regrets and what ifs.  And the knowledge that I am not alone in this pain, usually a comfort, only makes my heart ache more today.  

    Sending much love to all of you remembering your angels today.

    Marissa

  • Angel Love

    Welcome to Share!  I'm so sorry to hear of Eliannah's death.  I know the heartache all too well.  I'm a Christian too and know that I will see my daughter again, but it doesn't help my heart not miss here while I wait for that day.  Please know that you're only required one breath at a time.  Take the time you need to grieve this loss and do what is right for your family.  We're here to listen any time you need to talk.  

    Hugs,

    Tracy

  • lvazquez

    In reply to Eliannah God has answered:

    I am so very sorry to read about the loss of your baby girl Eliannah. Her name is beautiful. Please be gentle with yourself and grieve your loss. I'm an angel mom too and had other young children at home. Continue to lean on your husband and close friends for support and know that we're hear to listen anytime.

    Lindsay

  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    In reply to Eliannah God has answered:

    I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet Eliannah Elisabeth. The pain of losing a child is one that no parent should ever have to face, but unfortunately many of us here on Share, myself included, know this pain too well.  Its so hard when there are no answers, when you know you did everything right.  

    I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

    Marissa

  • Eliannah God has answered

    In reply to Hunter and Randi's Mom:

    Hello fellow parents. I hope you are all well. I'm new to this site and my family and I lost our precious baby girl Eliannah Elisabeth just two days ago at 18 1/2 weeks into my pregnancy.  It's been a very hard few days dealing with this grief.

    We are a God fearing Christian family and find hope and comfort in our sovereign Lords plans. His plans are better then my dreams. John 1:21. We will be burying our little girl in a week and find that is hard for people to comprehend the real grief  of losing a child even if the child is not a full term baby.

    I, like many mothers did everything right. We are a family that only eat organic foods. No processed foods, no fast food, no  caffeine either. I took the best raw prenatal vitamins as well as a liquid vitamin that contains the essential ninety vitamins, minerals and amino acids that a growing baby would need to grow and develop. The Lord saw fit to take our daughter home regardless of our efforts. Like many situations doctors don't know what caused her death since everything up until that moment was perfect but think it may have been an infection. Eliannah had fluid in her chest and stomach but they don't know if it happened before or after she passed.

    Eliannah would have been our third child. I have a little boy and a little girl and I praise God for my miracle babies...all three of them.

    I'm prone to uti's although I had no symptoms during my pregnancy, I'm starting to wonder if  that may have been the cause. I have accepted that  we may not be able to get any answers but although I know my daughter is in the arms of our Lord I still have moments of deep sorrow and grief. My deepest condolences to all of you!

  • nmiller77

    In reply to vvc:

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss.   I loss my son two years ago.  After my son passed away I too only functioned for my oldest son.  I got out of bed because I had to make him breakfast, I left the house because I knew I had to something with him.    Just take it a minute at a time and then one day you'll find you can start going a day at a time.  and building up from there.  It does hurt and it takes a long time for that pain to become a dull ache.  Many hugs to you and we are here whenever you need us.

  • Hunter and Randi's Mom

    In reply to vvc:

    Hi vvc - welcome to Share.  I am so sorry for your loss of your son. Losing a child is something no parent should ever have to experience.  Unfortunately many of us on Share, myself included, are loss moms.  We understand and we are here to support you as you grieve for your sweet boy.  My daughter passed away 6 years ago.  Like Lindsay, some of the guilt still lingers for me.  I have found that, while the pain never goes away, learning to cope with the pain gets easier with time.  

    I  keeping you in my thoughts and sending many hugs,

    Marissa

  • lvazquez

    Welcome to Share vvc. I am sorry to read about the loss of your baby boy. My heart breaks for you. I'm an angel mom too and found the site shortly after losing our son. I had two other young kiddos at home. It was very difficult to get through the daily. It was hard to really grieve because they needed my care and attention. I have guilt as well and some might always be there. For now, take care of yourself and let others do for you if possible. Be gentle with yourself and know that you're never alone.

    Lindsay

  • vvc

    I lost my son 12 weeks ago. He was 36 weeks old.

    The pain is so raw that I can barely breathe somedays. I just function for my older son who is becoming very sensitive to my pain. I feel perpetually guilty that I couldn't prevent his death which was a cord accident. I just hope time helps me heal. Being on Share reading so many of your stories makes me realize that I am not alone and we, women & mothers, have each others support to get through the pain.

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