My sweet Savannah

Hello! My beautiful, perfect baby girl passed away October 1, 2017. My sweet Savannah was stillborn. I'm having a very hard time getting thru it. I have a 6 year old little boy, Mason, that I know I have to keep going for. He has been begging for a sibling since he was 3 years old and was so excited to be his baby sisters super hero big brother. The disappointed, heartbroken and terrified look on his face in the hospital that day will be burned in my mind for the rest of my life. I've been trying to just deal with this on my own cause it seems like everyone is moved on and over it and it's maddening because to me it still feels like yesterday. So I thought this would be a good place to start seeking help from people who have Been thru situations like this. How do you get thru it? How do you deal with the constant pain and feeling of guilt? Why isn't there more research on stillbirths?

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  • Hello and Welcome. I am so very sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I lost my first daughter 11 years ago, due to Trisomy 18. Its not something any mom should ever have to face. You are definitely in the right place to find support and people who understand what you're going through. As far as research questions I honestly don't have the answers. Its my understanding there are many different reasons they could happen and I think this is the cause for so much confusion surrounding it. I managed to get through losing my daughter by literally taking one breath at time, a minute at a time, and just trudging on because I had to go to work and take care of my dog- that's the only reason I got out of bed most mornings. I hope you can find comfort here. Sending you so much peace and strength.
    Love and Hugs